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The Foundation of Self-Compassion
When Life Sucks: Buddhism, NVC, and Mourning
Transforming "Not Enough" Thoughts with Mindfulness and Compassion
How to Stop Viewing Your Anxiety as an Enemy
How to Practice Self-Compassion When You Think You Can't


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When Life Sucks: Buddhism, NVC, and Mourning

As I sit at my desk in California, awaiting the trick-or-treaters, an e-mail my sister just sent me is reverberating through my mind. She wrote from New York, "No power. No school. Halloween postponed 'til next Friday."  I picture my little niece and nephew all dressed up in their adorable costumes, having to wait over a week to celebrate one of their favorite holidays.
As the Buddha taught, sometimes life really sucks. 
I'm writing this in the immediate aftermath of Hurricane Sandy, and am struck by the theme of loss that seems to be calling out for my attention this month, so I thought I'd muse on the topic of mourning, and offer some insight and support I've learned from my adventures in both Buddhism and Nonviolent Communication (NVC).

How to Practice Self-Compassion When You Think You Can't

I was recently featured in an article on about practicing self-compassion. Here is the article, written by Margarita Tartakovsky.  Click here to read the article on

How to Practice Self-Compassion When You Think You Can't
by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S.

Self-compassion is powerful. It promotes inner peace. Self- criticism, the opposite of self-compassion and what most of us are used to practicing, “is an experience of inner conflict,” according to Ali Miller, MFT, a therapist in private practice in Berkeley and San Francisco, Calif.

Ho Ho Hum: Coping with Sadness During the Holiday Season

It’s that time of the year again. Or, as some may say, it’s that time of the year again!

Whether you’re the most enthusiastic merry-maker on your block or the most cynical Grinch there ever was, there’s one thing we Americans all have in common during the month of December: Christmas is inescapable. From the non-stop jingle bells tunes on the radio and in the stores, to the incessant commercials selling the hottest new gadgets that little Jimmy is sure to love, to the glowing lights and manger displays filling up the streets, the message is clear.