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The Foundation of Self-Compassion
When Life Sucks: Buddhism, NVC, and Mourning
Transforming "Not Enough" Thoughts with Mindfulness and Compassion
How to Stop Viewing Your Anxiety as an Enemy
How to Practice Self-Compassion When You Think You Can't

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The Foundation of Self-Compassion

The Foundation of Self-Compassion

An editor at PsychCentral.com recently asked me, "What do you wish people really understood about self-compassion?" Here is my response.

I wish people really understood that self-compassion is fundamentally about caring about yourself. It’s about treating yourself like you would your best friend: with kindness, attention, love, and responsiveness. It’s saying to yourself, “I’m here for you. I care about you and I want to support you.”

I believe this compassionate attitude towards ourselves is the foundation for sustainable change.

When Life Sucks: Buddhism, NVC, and Mourning

As I sit at my desk in California, awaiting the trick-or-treaters, an e-mail my sister just sent me is reverberating through my mind. She wrote from New York, "No power. No school. Halloween postponed 'til next Friday."  I picture my little niece and nephew all dressed up in their adorable costumes, having to wait over a week to celebrate one of their favorite holidays.
 
As the Buddha taught, sometimes life really sucks. 
 
I'm writing this in the immediate aftermath of Hurricane Sandy, and am struck by the theme of loss that seems to be calling out for my attention this month, so I thought I'd muse on the topic of mourning, and offer some insight and support I've learned from my adventures in both Buddhism and Nonviolent Communication (NVC).

How to Practice Self-Compassion When You Think You Can't

I was recently featured in an article on PsychCentral.com about practicing self-compassion. Here is the article, written by Margarita Tartakovsky.  Click here to read the article on Psychcentral.com.

How to Practice Self-Compassion When You Think You Can't
by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S.

Self-compassion is powerful. It promotes inner peace. Self- criticism, the opposite of self-compassion and what most of us are used to practicing, “is an experience of inner conflict,” according to Ali Miller, MFT, a therapist in private practice in Berkeley and San Francisco, Calif.

Practicing Self-Compassion When You're Struggling with Anxiety

I was recently featured in an article on Psychcentral.com about ways to practice self-compassion when you're struggling with anxiety. Here is the article, written by Margarita Tartakovsky.  Click here to read the article on Psychcentral.com.

Practicing Self-Compassion When You're Struggling with Anxiety
by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S.

People who struggle with anxiety often beat themselves up about it. "I should be able to handle this." "There must be something seriously wrong with me.

Simple Ways to Befriend Yourself Throughout the Day

Simple Ways to Befriend Yourself Throughout the Day

Being compassionate towards ourselves, research shows, is a major contributor to mental health. No longer limited to the realm of transpersonal or Buddhist-influenced psychology, articles on the benefits of self-compassion are popping up in mainstream periodicals such as Harvard Health Publication and Scientific American. There’s no question that befriending ourselves is a powerful and transformative approach to healing low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, and a host of other variations of human suffering.