"Compassion isn't some kind of self-improvement project or ideal that we're trying to live up to. Having compassion starts and ends with having compassion for all those unwanted parts of ourselves, all those imperfections that we don't even want to look at." Pema Chodron "If you aren't good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you'll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren't even giving to yourself." Barbara De Angelis
"Having compassion starts and ends with having compassion for all those unwanted parts of ourselves. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy."
"You have been taught that there is something wrong with you and that you are imperfect, but there isn't and you're not." Cheri Huber
"What we do about our feelings determines the quality of our relationship with ourselves." Cheri Huber
"Change is possible, but it must start with self-acceptance." Alexander Lowen
"If you want to do your best for future generations of humanity, for your friends and family, you must begin by taking good care of yourself." Tarthang Tulku Rinpoche
"Allow whatever this moment contains. No matter what event or happening or situation, say 'yes' to it. Allow it to be."
"To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance." Oscar Wilde
"In all the great spiritual traditions, at their heart is tenderness--just to be kind inside, and then everything rights itself. Fear rests. Confusion rests." Pamela Wilson
"It is lack of love for ourselves that inhibits our compassion toward others. If we make friends with ourselves, then there is no obstacle to opening our hearts and minds to others." Unknown
"Hoping a situation will change keeps you at a distance from your true feelings--sadness, anger, fear. Each of these feelings is best appreciated up close. Feel them deeply, and they will cease to bother you. Hope they'll go away, and they'll bother you all day." Gay Hendricks
"Self-compassion is approaching ourselves, our inner experience with spaciousness, with the quality of allowing which has a quality of gentleness. Instead of our usual tendency to want to get over something, to fix it, to make it go away, the path of compassion is totally different. Compassion allows."
"Don't forget to love yourself." Soren Kierkegaard
"Healing the self means committing ourselves to a wholehearted willingness to be what and how we are--beings frail and fragile, strong and passionate, neurotic and balanced, diseased and whole, partial and complete, stingy and generous, twisted and straight, storm-tossed and quiescent, bound and free."
Paula Gunn Allen "Often life is a frantic avoidance of the truth."
Adyashanti "Welcome [fear] completely, be ready to live with your fear. The moment you are ready to live with it, without trying to do anything about it, it's already neutralized because you are already free from it. " Francis Lucille
"Enlightenment is intimacy with all things." Dogen Zenji
with one's self is all important, because without it, one cannot be
friends with anyone else in the world." Eleanor Roosevelt
"Often we treat certain aspects of ourselves as junk, having no value. We try to throw parts of ourselves in the garbage. But a human being is an ecosystem, and everything in that system is of value to the whole."
Stephen Schwartz "An important aspect of self-compassion is to be able to empathically hold both parts of ourselves--the self that regrets a past action and the self that took the action in the first place."
"Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare." Audre Lorde
"Radical self-care is what we've been longing for, desperate for, our entire lives--friendship with our own hearts." Anne Lamott
want people to change because they see better ways of meeting their
needs at less cost, not because of fear that we're going to punish them,
or 'guilt' them if they don't.
This applies to ourselves as well." Marshall Rosenberg
"When hard times come, the greatest danger does
not necessarily lie in the circumstances we face, but rather in the way
we treat ourselves at the time. Nothing is more dangerous than
self-hate. Nothing makes it more difficult to heal or to find the grace
of peace than self-attack and the agony of self-doubt." Stephen Schwartz
"The real connection we long for is the connection with ourselves; the connection with where we are here and now...When the connection with our own presence is broken everything just starts to feel empty." Jeff Foster
"Be kind to yourself, dear - to our innocent
Forget any sounds or touch you knew that did not help you
You will come to see that all evolves us." Rumi
"Let everything happen to you: beauty and terror.
Just keep going. No feeling is final." Rainer Maria Rilke
like a mother, when the baby is crying, she picks up the baby and she
holds the baby tenderly in her arms. Your pain, your anxiety is your
baby. You have to take care of it. You have to go back to yourself, to
recognize the suffering in you, embrace the suffering, and you get a
relief." Thich Nhat Hanh
"I was obsessed with being perfect and beautiful, like a porcelain doll, forgetting that the purpose of life is to live fully, not to die perfect."
Kimber Simpkins "If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete."
Jack Kornfield "You don't want to beat yourself up for beating yourself up in the vain hope that it will somehow make you stop beating yourself up. Just as hate can't conquer hate -- but only strengthens and reinforces it -- self-judgment can't stop self-judgment."
some reason, we are truly convinced that if we criticize ourselves, the
criticism will lead to change. If we are harsh, we believe we will end
up being kind. If we shame ourselves, we believe we end up loving
ourselves. It has never been true, not for a moment, that shame leads to
love. Only love leads to love."
any feeling wants is to be welcomed with tenderness. It wants room to
unfold. It wants to relax and tell its story. It wants to dissolve like a
thousand writhing snakes that with a flick of kindness become harmless
strands of rope."
Geneen Roth "As you breathe in, cherish yourself. As you breathe out, cherish all beings." His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama "Go back and take care of yourself. Your body needs you, your feelings need you, your perceptions need you. Your suffering needs you to acknowledge it. Go home and be there for all these things." Thich Nhat Hanh
"Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It's a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity.” Pema Chödrön
"We cannot change anything until we accept it. Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses." Carl Jung
"When we demand perfection of ourselves, we disconnect from our own Hearts...and when we demand that of others, we disconnect from them as well...profound loneliness infuses a culture based on not being 'good enough.'" -Shoshi Morginn
"Just like our organs, our anger is part of us. When we are angry, we have to go back to ourselves and take good care of our anger. We cannot say, 'Go away, anger, I don't want you.' When you have a stomachache, you don't say, 'I don't want you, stomach, go away.' No, you take care of it. In the same way, we have to embrace and take good care of our anger." -Thich Nhat Hanh
be softer with you.
you are a breathing thing.
a memory to someone.
a home to a life.