Befriending Ourselves - Resources for Inner Peace & Compassionate Self-Care
Welcome to a place I hope you will return to frequently for comfort, inspiration, and refuge. 

be softer with you. 
you are a breathing thing.
a memory to someone.
a home to a life.
~Nayyirah Waheed  
How do you relate to yourself 
when  life gets hard?

You've probably realized by now that life can feel really hard: You don't always get what you want, and you often get what you don't want. Have you ever stopped to notice how you relate to yourself when difficulties arise?
Tuning in to your Inner Dialogue

Oftentimes, when things don't go our way and we experience "negative" emotions, we can become our own worst enemy. Have  you ever listened to your inner dialogue and how violent it can be?  We fail a test and criticize ourselves as stupid. We don't get the job we wanted and tell ourselves we'll never amount to anything. We get angry about something and berate ourselves for not being "nice" or "spiritual" or a "good person."
Befriending Yourself

If this harsh way of relating to yourself sounds familiar, you are not alone! Many of us have learned to criticize ourselves from our families and a culture that is focused on perpetual self-improvement. But what if there was another way you could relate to yourself when you're having an experience you'd rather not be having? What if instead of being your own worst enemy you could be your own best friend?

This is a website dedicated to sharing practices that will help you relate to pain--anger, fear, sadness, and any other "negative"emotional experience--with compassion. If you're tired of being in conflict with yourself and are longing for inner peace, I encourage you to check out these resources. By clicking on the tabs, you can learn about a variety of practices for inner peace and compassionate self-care, and you can start implementing all of these tools immediately. All of these practices are intended to help you treat yourself with the kindness and love you would bestow upon your best friend. If you want to learn more, I have provided links to further resources.
About Me

My name is Ali Miller. I created this website in 2009 because I wanted to share what has been helpful to me on my own healing journey with as many people as possible. I am a licensed psychotherapist in private practice in Berkeley, California. You can learn more about my services  at, or feel free to call me at (415) 820-1433 or email me at

I hope this site supports you in taking good care of yourself 
in each and every moment. 

As the Buddha is known to have said, 
"You, yourself, as much as anybody in the universe, 
deserve your love and affection."
© Ali Miller, 2009. All rights reserved.